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Community Highlights: Meet Alia Dye of The Pleasure Pollinator

Today we’d like to introduce you to Alia Dye.

Hi Alia, please kick things off for us with an introduction to yourself and your story.
Hi! My name is Alia, aka The Pleasure Pollinator (@thepleasurepollinator on Instagram).

I’m super passionate about embodied expression, sensuality, speaking and reaching for all our desires, and living a life FULL of pleasure.

My journey of becoming The Pleasure Pollinator started as young as I can remember! I remember saying as a young girl before I even knew what these words meant, that I wanted to become a “sex therapist.”

In high school and college, I dove into the study of Psychology; first, to understand myself better, and second, to understand others better. Once I finished my A.A. in Psych, my junior college campus (Colorado Mountain College), wasn’t offering a 4-year degree in Psych yet. So, I leaned into my love of dance.

After moving to Colorado in 2014, I was introduced to the lovely world of Belly Dance. I picked up the movement art quickly and began teaching just 2 years into learning. I’ve always felt like a natural leader, so teaching this dance form came naturally to me. But there was something missing…

I couldn’t figure out how to get my students to fully drop into their bodies. They were always focused on how they looked, comparing themselves to me or other belly dancers, rather than focusing on how they felt.

Then, the pandemic started. I found myself scrambling to move my dance classes online. I found myself longing to support my loved ones in moving the fear, anxiety, and stress out of their bodies. I desperately wanted to support my community by regulating their nervous systems and remembering pleasure. I started doing IG Lives every day to move my body and inspire my audience to move theirs.

Movement is one of the best ways to regulate our nervous systems, so during this time, I created a dance class called “Dance for Destress,” where students could jump, shake, sound, and emote, which are some key ways to regulate the nervous system and release pent up energy.

At the same time, I was feeling a disconnection in myself. While I always considered myself a sensually alive and vibrant person, I was struggling to connect with myself in this way. Then, I discovered Embody by Nadia: a moving meditation for women to explore and embody their pleasure, power, and play. (Find out more at nadiamunla.com)

This dance experience truly brought me back to life. I realized, embodiment was the missing piece in my ability to get my students to really feel themselves. After taking my first Embody class online, I just KNEW that I had to become a facilitator of this experience. I applied right away.

After becoming certified to teach Embody and receiving a year-long, trauma-informed Embodiment Certification from Nadia, I embarked on the next phase of my journey—becoming a VITA-certified Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach. VITA stands for a Vital and Integrated Tantric Approach.

In VITA, we use scientifically backed, holistic tools and processes (like breathwork, movement, sound, self-pleasure, and more), and we combine them with the ancient wisdom of Classical Tantra for deep, transformational healing. (Find out more at laylamartin.com)

I’m currently halfway through this 650-hour coaching certification. What this experience is showing me is the power of our body’s wisdom, the power of our sexual energy when used for healing, and the power of using a desire-based system (vs focusing on what’s “wrong” with us) for transformation.

Oh, and that I’m going to be a bomb-ass coach! Plus, the little girl inside of me who desires to be a “sex therapist,” is absolutely teeming with pride and joy.

Follow me and my journey on Instagram at @thepleasurepollinator for more tips on embodied expression, adding sensuality into your daily life, owning your desires, and filling your days with pleasure!

I’m sure you wouldn’t say it’s been obstacle free, but so far would you say the journey has been a fairly smooth road?
The short answer, is no, my journey has not been entirely smooth.

Deep healing and transformational work can look really bright and shiny on the outside. But behind the scenes, there are nights of crying on the floor, days of doubting myself, feeling numb and disconnected from my “why,” and the feeling of turning my life completely inside out and upside down.

There’s the vulnerability that comes with expressing my sensuality, sexuality, and pleasure on a public platform. I mean, just imagine saying, “Hi, mom and dad! Here’s what I look like when I’m in pleasure!”

There’s the challenge of transparency at family dinners about my line of work, as I’m the first person to ever embark on this type of career path. Throw into the mix the common question from strangers of “what do you do?” and blush at the invitation to share with them that I’m becoming a Sex, Love, and Relationship, Coach. I’m getting better at this one.

There have been times when I’ve questioned whether or not I can “trust” the spiritual world that I feel so connected to. I was also raised Christian, which comes with all kinds of negative and limiting messaging around women’s bodies and pleasure.

In my younger years, I received a lot of messaging that it’s shameful to be in pleasure, dangerous to express my sexuality and that I can’t trust anyone with my body, even myself.

At times, it has literally felt like I’m busting through chains in order to freely express myself in my work.

It’s deep work—reclaiming pleasure and sensuality for myself. But, I know that by embarking on this journey, I open the door for other women and men to do the same. I get to help rewrite the story of pleasure in our lives.

I recognize that I have had a lot of support on my journeys that not everyone has, such as a supportive network of friends and family, and, at the same time, the road to becoming The Pleasure Pollinator has had its fair share of challenges.

Appreciate you sharing that. What should we know about The Pleasure Pollinator?
The Pleasure Pollinator was born out of a beautiful breathwork session I attended online in August of 2021 (hosted by Stephanie Burg – stephanieburgcoaching.com). A vision of a bee came to me and I received the message loud and clear: “I’m a pollinator of pleasure!”

What being a “pollinator of pleasure” means to me is that I embody a pleasure-filled life and inspire others to do the same. Pollinators bring life and rejuvenation to the Earth, and I see myself doing the same with pleasure. Pleasure is life-giving and incredibly healing, and I wish for everyone to experience this for themselves.

One of the things I want everyone to realize is: Pleasure can be found in everyday moments and isn’t strictly limited to erotic experiences. Find pleasure in moving your body, slowly sipping your coffee or tea, or offering love to a family member. Pleasure is available to you at all times, you just have to slow down enough to feel it.

And one thing that I don’t want to get confused about: In my world, I don’t use pleasure to bypass the reality of life. I use pleasure to support the reality of life. Life is naturally challenging, heartbreaking, and gut-wrenching. If pain is inevitable, why not make pleasure inevitable?

In my opinion and experience, knowledge is power. I get to share that pleasure, sensuality, and sexuality are beautiful, sacred, and a natural part of our lives. By sharing, educating, and coaching around these topics, I get to support more personal empowerment, which creates more safety in our bodies, our sex, and the world.

What sets me apart is the trauma-informed lens I operate from and my embodiment training. A lot of coaching focuses on mindset, like positive thinking, which can really only get us so far. By bringing in an embodiment, through breathwork, movement, sound, and our “felt sense,” (aka, the sensations moving through our bodies), we can access deeper layers of the mind and body which can provide long-standing and profound transformation.

I also hold a level of presence that is deeply felt by everyone I have the pleasure of working with, whether it’s in casual conversation or formal coaching practice. This natural ability supports friends, family, and clientele (and even strangers!) in feeling comfortable enough to open up and reach a deep level of vulnerability with me in a matter of minutes.

What my audience may not realize is that I haven’t always had an easy go with my experience of pleasure. Since 2019 or so, I’ve experienced numbness, disengagement, and what felt like a death of what I knew as my sexuality. So, I’m no stranger to difficulties around sex and pleasure.

What I’m most proud of in my business so far is that I’ve embarked on this journey at my own pace. The modern world is always pushing, rushing, and holding high expectations to perform. It has been a conscious practice to honor my body, go at my own pace and listen first before speaking.

Currently, I offer monthly women’s circles through Patreon (patreon.com/thepleasurepollinator). These spaces are open to anyone who identifies as a woman.

Each month, I choose a theme for us to delve into. Past themes have been, “what is femininity,” “sensuality,” “orgasm,” and “boundaries.” I hold space for group discussion and curate different experiences, like guided meditations, embodiment exercises, breathwork, journaling, and more, to dive deeper into the theme.

In the near future, I’ll be offering group programs and 1:1 coaching. So far, my business operates completely online, so you can join from anywhere. To stay in the loop, get on my free newsletter – https://view.flodesk.com/pages/624c7c872d66a653a854bdeb

We’d be interested to hear your thoughts on luck and what role, if any, you feel it’s played for you.
I feel luck has touched a few different areas of my life…

– Stumbling upon mentors who have supported powerful transformation within me, such as Nadia Munla, Layla Martin, and Justin Patrick Pierce.

– Being born into a family that is wildly supportive, even if they don’t always understand.

– Having the love and support of so many friends and colleagues… Ghanay, Rae, Kelly, Stormi, Carlie, Cindy, all of my belly dance students, my Embody community, and my VITA peers, and anyone who has joined me at my events!

– Experiencing powerful partnership, even through challenging times, with my partner Teddy.

– Living during a time when I have the freedom to express myself so freely. It was not always a safe world for women to speak and express themselves in such ways, and we still have a long way to go. I am grateful to be alive during these times.

Whether this is luck, divine timing, my ability to cultivate my community, or a little bit of everything, I don’t know.

All I can say is, that I do feel very lucky to experience everything I’ve mentioned above.

Pricing:

  • Monthly Women’s Circles – $22/month.

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Image Credits
Ghanay Gloude & Stormi Cloud

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