Today we’d like to introduce you to Becky Moller.
Hi Becky, we’re thrilled to have a chance to learn your story today. So, before we get into specifics, maybe you can briefly walk us through how you got to where you are today.
Lifehouse Body and Soul is a mindfulness and wellness center that has been ten years in the making. Ten years ago, I was a busy mom of four young children.
I was also the coordinator of the BYU Extramural Aerobics program and a group exercise instructor at both BYU and UVU. My life changed drastically when my husband of thirteen years disclosed a hidden life to me, and I found myself drowning in betrayal trauma. Everything in my life seemed to come to a halt. While I was still able to manage my job and get my kids where they needed to go, my inner world was falling apart. My body was constantly hijacked with feelings of panic and fear which manifested in an elevated heart rate, sensations of tingling or buzzing, and a searing pain that seemed to come from the inside out.
My mind was chaotic, unable to complete linear tasks, obsessing at times and dissociating at others, and often invaded with intrusive thoughts that felt overpowering. These physiological symptoms for a time felt unbearable. I was at a rock bottom.
Over the next five years of my life, healing became my full-time job. I found connections in groups and resources that understood the issues I was dealing with and learned that I was not alone. I found hope as I witnessed others who had worked through similar experiences and come out on the other side with strength, steadiness, and inner peace. I was guided to specialized therapists who had the experience to help both myself and my husband make our way into a New Normal: a way of life that was grounded in healthy principles and practices.
My husband and I were able to repair our relationship and establish a clear foundation of full transparency, accountability, mindfulness, and trust in a Higher Power. But the resolution of the marriage was not the end of the story: it was part of the beginning. This healing journey was so much bigger: introducing me to a toolkit and perspective that changed the entire way I view the world, myself, and the people around me. And I felt it in my whole body, mind, and spirit.
I dove deep into a personal meditation practice and I started to change the way I taught group exercise. I could see the ways that physical exercise had played a vital role in helping me move through my trauma. I wanted to give my students more than just a workout. I wanted to help them connect to their physical body as a vehicle of healing, to connect to movement as a way to release emotions and find their center. As I offered these tools to my students, I could see the fruits were good.
I had the opportunity to serve as the Executive Director of the 12-step Non-profit that had been such a safe community for my husband and me. I was able to deeply study and understand how to create healthy group dynamics, how to work with struggling individuals, and how to establish a platform that could reach thousands of people across the globe. I wrote dozens of articles and eventually an entire recovery manual for the foundation. These endeavors forced me to get very clear on the mechanics of healing, deepening my understanding of the spiritual transformation I’d experienced.
I saw the overlap between the healing I’d experienced through 12-step groups and therapy and the healing I was experiencing through mindful movement and meditation. I felt the desire to go deeper and be certified in yoga and a 2-year Mindfulness and Meditation Teacher Training through Sounds True and the Greater Good Science and Awareness Institute at UC Berkeley. This training deepened my understanding of how all these separate tools of mind, body, and spirit had created a life-changing shift in myself, and so many people I had worked with. I felt a deep desire to bring all these tools together in a program intended not just for self-proclaimed “addicts,” but for the entire human race.
My dear friend Nesha Woodhouse owns a beautiful performing arts studio in Salem, UT: Lifehouse Performing Arts Academy. She and I had developed a friendship over the years as I had shared my experiences with trauma. She shared with me her vision of a place for people to come and heal: Lifehouse Body and Soul, and suggested that we could build such a place together. In the fall of 2020, life carried me in that direction and we established a formal partnership. I stepped away from the 12-step non-profit and into a new program for all of humanity, one that I didn’t even know I was supposed to build.
Lifehouse Body and Soul has become a platform for healing and awakening in the body, mind, and spirit. We use movement, group meetings, individual mentoring, and personal meditation practice to help people heal trauma and wake up to the wholeness that already resides within them. The work is my practice and purpose, and it brings me ultimate joy to see others awaken to the Light and Love through the same tools that continue to bless my life.
We all face challenges, but looking back, would you describe it as a relatively smooth road?
This is an interesting question. In one way, this road was paved through the darkest moments of my life.
Everything my life is today has come through facing the challenges that allowed me to see myself and my life situation in a deeper, clearer way. The initial situation itself was traumatic, painful, and uncertain. But, even more so was the process of healing: of leaning into the pain to understand it, instead of running away from it. I had to bring an empty cup: to be willing to let go of the ways I had defined myself in the past, to release my old ideas of the way it was, and of who I was. This surrender of my whole self was the most painful process I’ve ever experienced.
But, once I was able to truly let go and surrender my life to a Higher Power of my understanding, a permanent shift came into my life. Not that it suddenly became easy or that I didn’t face any challenges, because I did and I still do. But when I look back at how I got from rock bottom to where I am today, I can see some very clear milestones, and they were milestones of surrender. Of letting go of my agenda, and trusting that Something Higher was holding me and I could trust it.
Life started to feel different–like it was a wave carrying me, instead of me trying to drag it behind me or make it do what I wanted it to do. Where I am today–in my work, especially, feels like a place I have landed, that life propelled me to. I didn’t try to “make it,” I didn’t have any agenda to get here. I simply made a decision, years back, to let go of my own will and offer my life to God as I understood It, and one opportunity after another started to present itself to me. And all I have had to do has just been to be willing to act…and then, of course, try to keep my fear and my ego in check.
For me, when you’re creating something in the world, when you’re engaged in work that you’re putting out there, one of the main challenges that is to keep yourself out of it. To keep it coming from the right place, coming from the right balance and alignment in your heart and your innermost soul. That you’re not allowing it to get tainted into something that’s about validating your worth. That’s a constant practice.
Thanks – so what else should our readers know about your work and what you’re currently focused on?
I specialize in healing, in spiritual awakening, in a very tangible and universal way.
My signature contribution right now is a year-long Mindful Living Course that is a unique blend of mindfulness, meditation, 12-step, and somatic movement. The Course emerged from me sitting down in a chair, about eight years past my rock-bottom, to try to capture in the tiniest steps, how I got from there to here. I don’t know any other program that is more comprehensive or universal and I’ve participated in many. It offers very nebulous concepts like presence itself, to structured tools like the RAIN Meditation practice.
For people who are familiar with spiritual teachers Eckhart Tolle, Sarah Blondin, Thich Nath Hanh, Deepak Chopra, Tara Brach, Jack Kornfield, Michael Singer…this is a program and community that can help you live the principles these people teach and a community that can help you maintain a higher frequency. We embrace both the spiritual and the scientific: modern mindfulness has thousands of research studies to back up its benefits and we educate our students on these very tangible findings. The program is very open-minded and exploratory but it has some real meat to it too. I believe it’s accessible and expanding to both newcomers and veterans of mindfulness.
I’m also extremely excited to announce that my memoir will be coming out in the next 6-8 months. This is my most artistic, creative endeavor and has been my labor of love these past six or seven years. I believe that there’s so much truth in our stories–often more truth than we can capture in a statement or explanation, and I believe that this story of trauma and healing will resonate with so many people and hopefully help them find their way to the wholeness and peace that they are looking for.
We’d love to hear about any fond memories you have from when you were growing up.
My favorite childhood memory is probably the family trips we would take to the same lake every summer. I grew up in Wisconsin, and these weeks at the lake created this foundation of safety and consistency, surrounded by siblings, parents, cousins, aunts, uncles, and grandparents.
Pricing:
- In-Person Course in Mindful Living: $90/month or $942/year
- Online Course in Mindful Living: $1299/year
- Individual Mentoring Sessions: $100/session
- Movement Practice: $40/month
Contact Info:
- Website: lifehousefit.com, bodysoulschool.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifehousefit/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lifehousefit
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/becky-moller-159643230/
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8wzQA5FDVaTYUPox_NACSA (BodySoulSchool)
